Quandary (TMI)

Not to go back to this again so soon… but I am faced with more than the obvious difficulty of secondary infertility.

I don’t think my doctor is taking me seriously.

I first went to see my OB/GYN in October. By then, we had been trying to conceive for several months. I was lactating from both breasts, both during the period in which I likely was ovulating and then leading up to menstruation. She tested my hormone levels, and everything came back normal. I was told to keep at it.

In November, I had my annual exam. I expressed continued concern about our inability to get pregnant. I was told to relax. It had happened once, it will happen again. The likelihood of there being a problem with either of us was minimal, she said, because we’d already proved we could conceive. But, she said, she could put me on Clomid whenever I wanted. You’re young, she said, you’ve got time.

After a 39-day cycle in November-December, my husband could hardly stand to see me so sad again.

I feel like I know my body. I feel like there is something wrong. I’m not sure what it is. I have been charting for several months, using ovulation predictor kits. Both methods show that I am ovulating (I have the hormone surge prior to ovulation and the temperature shift afterward).  And I never have to take a pregnancy test and be disappointed because my temperature always goes down before I get my period.

I’ve decided this month that it must be the environment that I provide. Checking my mucus has been next to impossible – since I gave birth in December 2005, I rarely have any (a complaint I have mentioned to my doctor three times in the last year). While we have been using the special, non-sperm-killing lubricant for about six months now, I started taking a (costly) pill that is supposed to improve my production. I don’t know if it’s working.

I’m pretty sure Clomid isn’t the answer. I don’t know what is.

I have had no objections to my doctor before this point. She was wonderful throughout my pregnancy and post-natal experience. At what point do I demand to be seen again? How do I explain that something is just not working right? As I watch Rachel get older and older, I want to give her a sibling before they will be too far apart in age to get along. I want to have my last baby before I’m 35.

I know I can’t plan these things. I’m trying to relax. I’m trying to think about other things. But I’m struggling. And I hate waiting.

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5 Responses to Quandary (TMI)

  1. Erin says:

    Call me! I had this problem too.

  2. Vixen says:

    You know your body best, don’t doubt yourself. This OB might have been perfect for you before, but may not fit your needs now. See if you can find an OB who specializes in infertility (doesn’t have to be an expensive specialist, just one that treats fertility issues more than some regular OBs) and go see that new doc with your list of complaints and worries. It never hurts to get a second opinion.

  3. Christina says:

    I’m certainly no expert here but I too charted, used OPK’s and checked my mucus- it seems that the mucus is all you’re missing- have you tried taking regular Robitussin? I cant say its your answer but it is in TTOYF- I tired it and it just made me vomit- (I’m really selling this!)

    I agree with Vixen- find a midwife or a new ob (Or call tomorrow and DEMAND to come in and give her one more chance)- bring in your charts, talk about your lack of fluid and be your own advocate. You DO know your body! if that pill was working you’d know.

  4. Christina says:

    that was supposed to be TCOYF (taking charge of your fertility)

  5. mar says:

    I agree with the others, it could be time for a new doctor. I usually see the nurse prac. when I go for my yearly stuff. She had to send me to see one of the doctors last year, I didn’t care for him at all so called her back and she sent me to another in the same practice and so far I love her.

    My friend ended up doing clomid and took something over the counter to increase mucus, can’t remember what it was, will ask her and let you know what it was.

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